A Bar/Bat Mitzvah is a most joyous and significant event in the life of a child and all members of the family, including the synagogue family. It is signifies the point where the child chooses to publicly accept the responsibilities and privileges of being a Jewish adult. The child is called to the Torah as a Bar/Bat Mitzvah at Shabbat morning services in front of the entire congregation.
According to Jewish Law, the Bar Mitzvah takes place after a boy reaches the age of thirteen years and one day, calculated according to the Jewish calendar; girls must be twelve years or older. The synagogue office, in consultation with the Rabbi, assigns the dates for an entire school year’s Bar/Bat Mitzvah class. There are many considerations which go into the distribution of dates: birth dates, Jewish holidays, number of non-vacation Saturdays and attempts to honor special requests. Parents are notified of the date for the Bar/Bat Mitzvah three years in advance. Parents of children who attend MJDS must clear their date with the school.
Preparation for the Bar/Bat Mitzvah is an ongoing education process for all of our students. At the appropriate time, Torah and Haftarah reading skills are added to the curriculum. A booklet is given to the families detailing policies and fees relating to the Bat/Bar Mitzvah program at the time the family receives its Bar/Bat Mitzvah date. Our clergy and professional staff are intimately involved with B’nei Mitzvah class members, and their families, as they pray and study together.
Because of the importance of a Bar/Bat Mitzvah to the entire synagogue, they are scheduled to take place as part of the regular Shabbat morning service, although under special circumstances alternative arrangements may be made with the Rabbi. A kiddish is held following the services for the Bar/Bat Mitzvah guests and for the worshipers who are present. In planning any additional private celebrations, please remember the deep religious significance of the Bar/Bat Mitzvah. Because Bar/Bat Mitzvah reflects the acceptance of Jewish adult obligations, we urge you to have a kosher or dairy meal, to consider the appropriateness of the location and festivities, and to respect Shabbat observance. Congregants are encouraged to have their celebrations here at CBINT.
The clergy and administrative staff will be happy to help you in any way, such as answering any questions, considering special requests or helping to arrange your celebration at CBINT.
Bar/Bat Mitzvah Honor Form